Comments on: How About Fixed Term Relationships?

By: Rosine Caplot

Rosine Caplot — Sat, 26 Feb 2011 15:23:02 +0000

We still are in a one-month relationship and still loving it. :) I love the monthly relationship status talks. I find it very fun!

By: Jack Christopher

Jack Christopher — Sun, 21 Nov 2010 17:02:20 +0000

I’m immediately adopting this concept.

By: Rosine Caplot

Rosine Caplot — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 06:57:52 +0000

Interesting, Angela! I had never heard of handfasting before. But yeah, that’s basically what we do. :)

We just renewed our relationship which had ended, hehe. ;) The conversation we had was very touching. So far we are both loving the concept!

By: Angela Santo

Angela Santo — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 19:19:49 +0000

This is the same concept in alignment with Handfasting sometimes, which is basically marriage without the documents.

Definitely not a new concept for many hand-fasters, who marry for a year and a day, and then revisit whether they’d like to renew their vows yearly.

By: Rosine Caplot

Rosine Caplot — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 19:34:36 +0000

I tend to agree with Tarjei that loving feelings do not necessarily imply that people are able to communicate with each other in a healthy and effective way. There is so much that can temporarily come in the way, like fears, emotional issues, past pain… We are not *permanently* *fully* conscious, aware and perfectly connected with love. Managing a relationship also entails dealing effectively with such suboptimal states of being.

You can do this only on the fly as it comes up (we do that too of course), or additionally also in a more systematic way. To each their own, I guess. :)

@Warping: Technically it’s a new site, new URL, new RSS feed… Nice to see you. :) Have you quit smoking? ;) Much love to you too.

By: Jason Edwards

Jason Edwards — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 11:00:37 +0000

Communication is vital.Communication is a natural part of love.Love doesn’t deserve communication because love already has communication imbedded within it.For a relationship one needs to feel not think because then one can be resposive to the other. People can’t be together because there simply not in love thats why they can’t communicate.

By: Tarjei

Tarjei — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 08:48:33 +0000

It is stupid to moralize against a couple sitting down, and having a thorough chat of reason. A couple doing that each month, is great! :)
Ofcourse, with love, one feels and doesn’t think. But for a relationship to work one needs to think. There’s lots of couples who love each other, but can’t be together, because they’re not good enough with the talking and thinking bit. Communication is vital, and love deserves that. :)

By: Jason Edwards

Jason Edwards — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 08:09:36 +0000

P.S I think if one lives a simple life with very few possessions then one has more time to focus on what is important.The mundane is left behind.

By: Warping

Warping — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 03:25:21 +0000

Brilliant idea! Why didn’t I think of it hehehe.
I think you’ll learn a great deal about yourselves and relationships with this.
& it just might be a great pick-up line, “Wanna be my partner for 30 days?” ;D

Also, love the new direction of the site. Much love. :)

By: Rosine Caplot

Rosine Caplot — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 23:18:27 +0000

Hi Andrew,

maybe I’m being really left-brained tonight, because I am going to split hairs. I would say entering a *relationship* might be a risk. As you pointed out, there is the risk of having your heart broken, the risk of social disapproval, and lots of other risks. (But if you ask me, even those risks are not really risks, depending on how you see reality and how you define a risk.)

But *love* is never a risk. Opening your heart and loving someone, without any expectation or attachment, is a wonderfully beautiful thing, it is always worth it, and it only leads to good things. The more you love, the more you get love reflected back from the Universe, and your whole life becomes so loving. That is no risk. :)

What you wrote is very beautiful.

Love,

Rosine.