Do You Avoid the Moment of True Connection?
Rosine: Today, I would like to write a post about the moment of true connection.
Eduardo: What do you mean, the moment of true connection?
Rosine: Well, I have noticed that some people do want to feel real connection to other people. But then, they avoid this moment when it arises!
You know, this moment in a conversation when nobody hides anymore, and people REALLY meet, soul to soul, and look into each other’s eyes, and open up to each other, and then every word is meaningful and has a huge impact?
Eduardo: Oh, yes, I see what you mean.
Rosine: I think most people never experience this moment! But these are the truly beautiful moments in a relationship, the moments that are magical, and when anything can happen.
If anything can happen, that is scary. So most people spend their time running away from it. They want connection, but when they are close to really connecting, they avoid it. I would like to write about this moment, and tell people that they don’t need to be afraid of it.
Eduardo: Yes, they would feel completely vulnerable in that moment. But there is much strength in that.
Rosine: Yes, vulnerable. In that moment, there is no hiding anymore. No trying to impress, either. There is just being ourselves, honest and sincere. That is when people say or do the things that really matter, and that you will never forget.
Eduardo: Yes.
Rosine: Some people are so scared of this moment. They use lots of words to hide behind, and try to fill all the blanks in the conversation, so that no silence can happen. Some people get very nervous whenever there is silence. Then they avoid looking into my eyes, and start talking like waterfalls.
I would like to tell them to relax, and allow it to happen. Because this moment is exactly the beautiful thing about meeting someone else.
Of course it can be scary, but it is when we step into uncertainty that the really important things can happen. Being able to connect with others deeply and quickly is a lot about surrendering completely to this uncertainty and vulnerability.
Eduardo: Yes. They need to trust themselves and the moment.
Rosine: Interesting. How so?
Eduardo: Well, to open up, they need to trust the other person. And to be able to do that, they need to trust themselves first, so as to not just give their power away, and be confident that they will be able to handle whatever comes up.
Rosine: Yes. I had not even thought about that. But you are right.
Eduardo: And they need to trust the moment, as in trusting that it is a divine moment, that the other person is sacred also, and what is happening is completely and utterly good and all is well.
They will not be harmed, because they cannot be harmed… What they really are, at the core, cannot be harmed.
There is a piece of God inside everyone. The moment of true connection is the moment when they realize that the other actually is themselves.
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