How To Attract the Right Kind of People Into Your Life
This one is for Raymond with Love
For this article, my plan was to come up with a whole list of tips on how to attract the right kind of people into your life.
But now that I’m sitting here writing, it is clear to me that there’s only one thing that really matters. If you want to find the right people for you and have great relationships with them, it all boils down to this:
Be at peace with yourself.
Feel great about yourself.
Then everything else takes care of itself.
Your relationships with other people are a reflection of your relationship with yourself. Make your relationship with yourself right, and the people in your life will be right.
If we really love ourselves, everything in our life works.
— Louise Hay
Self-Love is the Key to Attracting the Right People Into Your Life
When you really love yourself, accept yourself as you are, and are at peace with who you are, it is much easier to attract the right people into your life. In fact it just happens naturally.
A few examples:
A Positive Mental Focus
Nothing in the world ever made me as happy as developing a great relationship with myself. It changes everything. It brightens every day and makes life just so much more enjoyable, wonderful and pleasant!
As a result, it is much easier to focus on the positive.
When you are such a happy person who is at peace and loves him- or herself so much, you easily notice everything you like in other people and easily let go of what you dislike about them.
What you like, nourished by your giving attention to it, grows and becomes more until you are surrounded by people you love pretty much everything about. :)
When you are at peace with who you are, you make choices that are authentic and reflect who you really are, no matter what other people think about them.
People who are then attracted to you are people who are right for you because they love the way you really are.
Healthy Energy Management
When you love yourself, you protect yourself and take good care of yourself. This includes upholding healthy boundaries and managing your energy in a way that is respectful towards yourself.
One consequence of this is that you don’t attract abusers, chronic victims, toxic people or other energy vampires anymore.
You feel so good about yourself that you gain self-confidence and let go of negative, limiting beliefs about who could possibly love you and who would want to engage with you.
This opens the door for new, wonderful experiences, and more people in your life who live up to your standards.
A Big Positive Shift in Your Energetic Signature
On your path to creating such an awesome state of unconditional self-love and inner peace, you have to heal a lot of old painful stuff, get rid of burdensome baggage and let go of all kinds of negative energies that aren’t who you really are and don’t serve you anymore.
This healing process creates a huge change in your energetic signature. Your energy progressively shifts over time and becomes a lot more positive.
You also feel inspired to take better care of yourself, including physically. Your physical energy becomes more positive too, and so does your overall energy.
Because of this change in your energy, you start attracting more positive experiences into your life, including people who are a better match for you and whom you really have fun with!
More Love, Less Fear
When you heal your connection to yourself you also feel more connected to God / the Universe / Source and everything and everyone else, because in truth, it is all the same thing.
You feel safe and it is easy for you to let go of the fears that are blocking you in the area of relationships.
You open up to closer, deeper, more meaningful connections. Then those people who are right for you are able to show up in your life and share these connections with you.
It’s All About You
Attracting the right kind of people into your life is not about how to attract people.
It’s not about other people, either.
It’s all about you, you, and you, and your path right now.
If you are unhappy with your relationships or with the kind of people you are currently attracting into your life, you are now facing a challenge.
The purpose of this challenge is for you to heal and grow and step more into who you really are.
This is a call from your soul.
It’s not about other people. You don’t even need to think about attracting the right people.
You just need to grow more into the person you are meant to be.
Heal your wounds, make peace with yourself, learn to truly love yourself, and the right people will show up.